Someone very close to me broke up with her boyfriend a few days ago. She's okay... it was her decision. And I think it was the right decision. But even though it was her choice, it doesn't stop her from feeling sad and guilty - sad for what she's given up and guilty for hurting him.
It's all too easy to stay in a relationship that isn't really working, being blind to the fact that you're not truly 100% happy. It is a brave thing to say to someone that things aren't really going the way you want. I guess when things are familiar and easy you don't tend to want things to change, at least you know where you stand and how things will take their course.
I've never been in this situation of doing the breaking up. In all my past relationships I've been the one who's been dumped, to pick up the pieces and start again. I always thought it was easier for the person who is doing the breaking up because it's their choice - they've had time to think about things and digest what is happening, whereas for me I always felt like the rug was being pulled out from underneath me. I never saw it coming. At least my exes were prepared for the aftermath of their decisions.
But now, I'm seeing things from the other person's perspective. It is a huge huge decision as what you're about to do affects not only yourself, but someone that you care about, someone that you did love - maybe in some ways still love in fact. It can't be easy telling someone that you're no longer in love with them.
I'm not saying that I forgive my exes for causing me so much hurt and pain, but I guess that I'm glad they did it rather than staying in a relationship that wasn't right for them. Obviously, with the wisdom of hindsight they should all realise what they've given up and that I was the best thing that could ever have happened to them!! Hahahah!!!
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