In The Boudoir...

Damn... It's not even been a week and I've broken my detox plan - had crisps and alcohol today. Oh well, it was an impromptu night out with 2 girlfriends and we ended up having a couple of cocktails and nibbles. We were having a good old natter, and of course, mix girls and drinks and yes, we ended up talking about sex. But specifically, about sexy lingerie in the boudoir.

I love lingerie. Nice and elegant lingerie, not cheap and tacky underwear. When I was younger I used to buy lots of matching sets of bras and knickers but as my size kept changing I found this to be a rather expensive habit. Now that my size is stable, I've indulged in some really fancy stuff from the likes of Myla, but most of my stuff is from M&S. I choose nice stuff though, silk bras and panties from their Autograph range fit really well. I have to be careful though, I don't tend to go for padded or contoured bras because for one thing I don't think I really need it, but also, I tend to think that it is a little bit of false advertising and it would be a bit disappointing for the guy when he got a handful of nothing.

I don't wear matching stuff everyday though. It's a pain to handwash delicates and sometimes, the pretty lacy bits or bows just don't need to be seen through your top or they give you a weird silhouette. I have loads of plain smooth bras and I just team those with black lacy knickers.

But... on a special night with a special someone, I think it is nice to wear sexy lingerie. It's really nice to wear in the daytime too - nobody knows you're wearing it but it makes you feel so pretty and feminine and sexy. One of my friends tonight argued what was the point of wearing special underwear as you only wore it for about 5 minutes before it got ripped off.

Firstly, there should be no ripping. Especially if it's really expensive and you like it! I said that you're not wearing the stuff for him, you're wearing it to make yourself look and feel good. Some women may be a bit uncomfortable showing off their bodies and may want a little nightie or camisole to cover bits that they're not so confident about. If you then feel more confident in yourself, you'll seem more sexy.

I also think that it's quite sexy to keep some clothing on for a bit anyway. And I think guys do appreciate it. But I do get where my friend is coming from though, men usually want to get at what is underneath the sexy undies so obviously would like to remove it sooner rather than later.

It was a fun discussion though, and I guess each to their own in the end. For me, I do have and enjoy wearing fancy lingerie, both in and out of the boudoir. Who says it's just for in the bedroom?!